I am currently suffering from Covid which is not the writers friend to say the least.

But this short piece came up on the BBC news website recently and it did raise the question, and not for the first time, about what happens to patients graves when the institution, hospital or asylum in which they lived closes.

The small iron crosses in Nayland cemetery seem to have a happy ending as local people, some of whom worked at the Jane Walker hospital, have taken on their upkeep for the foreseeable future. Follow the link for further information.

Nayland: The cemetery where iron crosses mark people with disabilities – BBC News

But not all patients graveyards have such a positive outcome and I have written in previous posts about Netherne Hospital cemetery which is abandoned and overgrown. Also, St Lawrence’s which was a hospital for disabled people, and now sits in the middle of a golf course. However, it is being cared for by a Friends group.  They are still acknowledged as burial places for patients or residents.

Others have not been so fortunate. In 1981, Cane Hill Hospital, a former Victorian lunatic asylum, was being prepared for redevelopment and their cemetery was cleared.  The remains of almost 6000 people were exhumed and cremated at Croydon Cemetery in Mitcham Road, Croydon. These included British First World War veterans who had had separate areas in the cemetery where they had been buried with full military honours. According to Wikipedia:

‘Research from plans indicated that there two designated main ‘service plots’ numbered 411 and 420, where six were buried in each grave. Eighteen of these, who had qualified for commemoration by the Commonwealth War Grave Commission (CWGC) are commemorated on a memorial that the CWGC erected in Croydon Cemetery, where their ashes had been scattered at ‘Location 1000’ in the grounds in 2015’

This is the unofficial memorial at Croydon Cemetery that records the servicemen interred there from Cane Hill. The original CWGC memorial was stolen and they do not recognise these.

In 2009, a headstone was placed at Location 1000 to record the patients buried there.

This was placed there due to patients families wanting to see the final resting place of their relatives and being directed to an

‘unmarked mound of earth in Croydon Cemetery’s Garden of Remembrance’

I have to say that it isn’t where I’d like my relatives last resting place to be.

However, a local councillor at the time felt:

‘sure that visitors will soon look on it as a suitable memorial area for those who died at Cane Hill.’

Anonymous in life and anonymous in death it would seem. There are some archive photos of the cemetery and the mound on www.simoncornwell.com     One wonders what memorials and information about patients was lost during this process especially as the NHS policy was to incinerate their records or leave them lying around in a derelict building. A local reporter did try and start a campaign to save them but it’s unsure what happened to it.

There is also the case of the Mendip Hospital Cemetery which I have written about in a previous post in which the NHS attempted to sell off a patients cemetery and Chapel as a ‘freehold development’. This was saved by local people who formed a friends group which appears to still be going strong. There are some lovely photos of it on TripAdvisor. The numbered iron markers, although long gone from the graves, are still there.

But who knows how many of these cemetery and graveyards have been lost over the years as the institutions close and no one knows what to do with them.  They are still someone’s relatives and as times change they may want to find out what happened to them. After all, local people saved the Mendip Hospital and St Lawrence’s and it was patients relatives who ensured that they finally had a proper headstone on the mound at Croydon Cemetery.  Someone cared enough to do something.

Text and photos© Carole Tyrrell unless otherwise stated.

Further reading:

Friends of Mendip Hospital Cemetery – Welcome

Cane Hill Hospital – Wikipedia

New headstone for Cane Hill paupers’ graves | Your Local Guardian

cane hill (simoncornwell.com)

The Forgotten Servicemen of Cane Hill | Surrey in the Great War:

‘And Bert’s gone syphilitic’ – The Real Tragedies Behind the Cane Hill Hospital Memorial at Croydon. | The Western Front Association

The theatre is dark, the audience and backstage staff have all gone home or off to the pub and the final curtain has been brought down. The end of a show, the end of the evening and, in funerary symbolism, the end of a life.

This fine example is from West Norwood Cemetery where it commemorates the Raikes family.  Theatre was in their blood and so the sculpture of a theatrical curtain is very appropriate.

But curtains and draperies have always been associated with death and remembrance.  There is the old saying which is sometimes quoted on headstones and memorials that the deceased has ‘gone beyond the veil’.  An urn on top of a memorial will often have a sculpted piece of cloth draped across it which indicates the division between the living world and the realm of the dead.  

In the 19^th century, and also well into the 20^th century, drapes were hung over mirrors with curtains and blinds drawn down at windows during the period of mourning. It was as if they were hiding death from the world or containing it within the family. On the Friends of Oak Grove Cemetery website they mention mirrors being covered with black crepe fabric in order to prevent the deceased’s spirit being trapped in the looking glass.

Curtains also feature on headstones where they are depicted as parted in order to display a meaningful symbol or to draw attention to an epitaph that takes centre stage. However the Raikes one is very obviously a theatrical curtain and it’s beautifully detailed.  They were powerful players in that flamboyant world and the curtain is a direct reference to this. For example, in 1889, they had Sir Edward Elgar and his new wife, Caroline, as guests in their house, Northlands in College Road, Dulwich.  This was just prior to his Salut D’Amour being performed at the Crystal Palace.

But the family home had a secret in its basement. This was where Charles Raikes (1879-1945) had constructed his own private theatre.  He lived there with his mother, Vera, (1858-1942) and two sons, Raymond and Roynon, from his former marriage. Roynon’s wife, Greta, and their daughter Gretha were also part of the household. Charles lived and breathed theatre and he was ahead of his time when he converted a large billiard room into the Northlands Private Theatre. Nowadays it would be a lavish home cinema with comfy seats and popcorn on tap with his own home movies onscreen.  He extended his pride and joy by removing a couple of inconvenient bay windows and then converting a coal cellar and wine cellar into dressing rooms. He was a talented scenic artist and stage carpenter and from 1924 – 1939 the Theatre put on nearly 23 productions a year to an invited audience. This was made up of the Raikes’ friends and relations as well as the actors and actresses friends. The lavish after show parties were renowned. 

Charles’ sons continued the links to the entertainment world.  Raymond (1910-1998) became a professional actor in the 1930’s and played Laertes to Donald Wolfit’s Hamlet at Stratford upon Avon.

He eventually became a BBC producer, director and broadcaster. He won several awards over a long career which included pioneering the use of stereo sound in radio drama.  In 1975 he retired and is known as one of the three greatest radio drama producers. Roynon became a professional photographer specialising in theatre pictures and was also a stills photographer for the BBC. Greta, his wife, became a theatrical costumier and drama teacher and her daughter, Gretha, in turn became a speech and drama teacher. In a 1997 Dulwich Society article she was also credited with being the curator of the archives of the Northlands Private Theatre.

The quotation below the curtain is from the Rubaiyat of Omar Khayyam.  It comes from the 21^st, 22^nd  or 23^rd stanza depending on which version you read.   This is the verse in full and is taken from the 1859 translation by Edward Fitzgerald

Lo! some we loved, the loveliest and best

That Time and Fate of all their Vintage prest,

Have drunk their Cup a Round or two before,

And one by one crept silently to Rest.

He saw them as a selection of quatrains or Rubaiyats that had been attributed to the Persian poet who was also known as the Astronomer Poet of Persia.  Although Fitzgerald’s translation was initially unsuccessful, by the 1880’s, it had become immensely popular.  It has influenced many creative people over the years including the Pre-Raphaelites and especially Dante Gabriel Rossetti. Oscar Wilde was also a fan and mentions ‘wise Omar’ in The Picture of Dorian Gray.   Agatha Christie, Isaac Asimov, H P Lovecraft and Daphne Du Maurier are amongst many who may have borrowed a line as a book title or used an Omar like figure within their works.  Interpretations of the Rubaiyat can be very free and as a result the quatrains can change their wording.  The underlying message of the Rubaiyat appears to be Seize the Day or Carpe Diem in Latin.  There are also several references to drinking with the implication that once drinking is over so is life.   But this particular line seems appropriate for its use on a headstone.

And so the curtain has been brought down on the Raikes family but, as I took my photos, I thought I detected a faint smell of greasepaint and the appreciative sound of applause……

©Text and photos Carole Tyrrell unless otherwise stated

References and further reading:

https://aeon.co/ideas/how-the-rubaiyat-of-omar-khayyam-inspired…

sleepinggardens.blogspot.co.uk/2011/06/fridays-funerary–symbols…

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rubaiyat_of_Omar_Khayyam

schoolworkhelper.net › English

https://artofmourning.com/2010/11/14/symbolism-sunday-drapery/

 Rubáiyát of Omar Khayyám Summary – eNotes.com

https://www.enotes.com/topics/rubaiyat-omar-khayyam

https://dulwichsociety.com/2017-winter/1578-brief-encounter…

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Raymond_Raikes

www.suttonelms.org.uk/raymond-raikes.html

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rubaiyat_of_Omar_Khayyam

Now celebrating it’s 10th birthday , the London Month of the Dead is a permanent fixture on the social calendars of devotees of the dark side.

You can book now and early booking is advisable – there are 60 talks, walks, workshops and performances to choose from. Some within London cemeteries and churchyards, some within ossuaries and others in more unique settings.

Experience another side of the metropolis with writers, perf, artists, historians and academics and like minded souls! And, to finish it in celebration of its 10th decade, there will be a Halloween Ball inspired by the works of Edgar Allan Poe! Click the link for more info and to book.

London Month of the Dead

I have been a fan of London Month of the Dead ever since it started and it has taken me to places that I would, otherwise, not been able to access. And such knowledgeable speakers and unique venues. I have such anticipation when the new programme appears and it’s a pleasure to see how it has expanded over the years. Last year I explored ossuaries with them – and found myself in Spitalfields on a Sunday morning peering down from the pavement into the remains of a large medieval ossuary and then being admitted into it…

Let’s all drink to another 10 years of the London Month of the Dead – especially if it’s a gin punch! Hic!

Open Day 2023
More information here. 
Advance tour booking here. These tours of the cemetery last 60 min and will run on the hour from 12:00 noon. The last tour is at 17:00.
Advance catacombs tour booking here.  These last 25 mins and will run on the hour and half hour from 11:30 am. The last tour is at 17:30.
Further events (like ‘Herbal Heritage: Uses and Folklore of Cemetery Plants’ walk) are being planned and our Open Day Page will be updated as these firm up.

We look forward to seeing you!

Crying cherub, St John the Baptist’s church, Margate, Kent. © Carole Tyrrell

Yes, it is shadowsflyaway’s 8^th birthday so there will be no Symbol of the Month this month.  Instead I hope to post some of my churchyard visits and what I found in them including this one which forms the background to this year’s birthday card from St John the Evangelist in Margate. This was a particularly fruitful churchyard in terms of symbols and, although it wasn’t open when I visited, I could see that there might be more interesting funerary memorials inside.

So thanks to all my readers for your comments and likes – they are very much appreciated. 

Here’s to shadowsflyaway’s 9^th birthday!

© Text and photos Carole Tyrrell

One of the snakes on the catacomb doors in Brompton Cemetery. copyright Carole Tyrrell

To any of you that live in London, I am leading an Introduction to Cemetery Symbols tour in Brompton Cemetery!

It will focus on the symbols within Brompton Cemetery of which there is a varied and fascinating collection amongst its 35,000 monuments from Celtic crosses to Egyptian gods and many others. Come and explore the lost language of Death with me!

Date and time: Sat, 8 July 2023, 14:00

Leaving from: Information Centre (Old Brompton Road entrance)
Duration: approx. 1 hour 30 minutes
Tickets are £10 per person (plus £1.50 booking fee if booked on Eventbrite)

Book at Eventbrite
(refundable up to 1 day before event; Eventbrite’s fee is nonrefundable)

Introduction to Cemetery Symbols Tickets, Sat 8 Jul 2023 at 14:00 | Eventbrite

Headstone dedicated to Robert Dadd dated 1640 – St Nicholas church, Sturry Kent © Carole Tyrrell

I was originally going to entitle this post ‘ the oldest headstone that I have seen – so far’. As I explore churchyards and cemeteries I sometimes find ancient tombstones and memorials dating back to the 17^th century. But, more recently, I have found ones that are dated even earlier.

This one was in the porch of St Nicholas in Sturry which is a village in Kent and is a good example of early 17^th century calligraphy.  Sadly, because it is in the porch, there is no way of knowing where Robert Dadd is buried within the large churchyard that surrounds the church. But it is incredible to think that this headstone has survived for over 400 years although obviously we don’t know when it was put in the porch. I couldn’t find the headstone on Kent Archaeological Society’s monumental inscriptions page but Dadd seems to be a fairly common name. They have been recorded as living in Sturry during the 18^th century.

Catherine Lees headstone, St Mary the Virgin, Selling, Kent © Carole Tyrrell

Detail of symbols on Catherine Lees headstone, St Mary the Virgin. Selling, Kent © Carole Tyrrell

I was admiring the drifts of ox eye daisies, or moon daisies as they are also known, in the substantial churchyard of St Mary the Virgin in Selling in Kent. This was a fascinating church with wall paintings of saints and other painted decoration.  Sometimes I do have a real sense of what a medieval church must have looked like, pre-Reformation, with murals, wall paintings and other decoration. It would have been alive with colour in contrast to the plain interiors of churches that can be seen today. The beautiful painted medieval column at St Mary’s of Charity in Faversham is another indication with its still rich colours. The priest would have used the wall paintings as teaching aids to an illiterate congregation. 

Under a spreading yew tree is the headstone dedicated to Catherine Lees who died in 1681. According  to the guidebook, it is the oldest legible tombstone in the churchyard, so there may be others even earlier that are not so readable now. Catherine was a member of an old Kent family, the Lees, and the guidebook says that there is ‘a house in the next parish of Shieldwich (which) is still called Lees Court after them.’ The inscriptions and symbols are very crudely cut into the stone which is part of its charm for me. However, I was a little surprised that such an old and venerable family could not afford a professional stonemason. There is an hourglass, skull and longbones and the epitaph reads:

‘My soule cleave fast to God above,

Nothing on earth deserves my love,

To live in all securite,

In heaven with thee,

Lord let me be.’

Medieval tomb markers, St Mary the Virgin, Selling, Kent © Carole Tyrrell

Also, in St Mary’s churchyard are its only surviving medieval tombstones according to the guidebook. Apparently, there were ‘many of them in a particular part of the churchyard’. These were ‘stone discs with a quatrefoil ornamentation on a short stone shank.’  But no names apparently. St Mary’s burial registers only began in 1558 so there may be no records of their medieval burials.  St Mary’s is an interesting church as the very first church was built on a Jutish holy place and their ‘savage dancing ground of beaten earth lies somewhere beneath the chancel floor of the tranquil and dignified building that is seen today.’ The   Jutes were one of the Germanic tribes that settled in Britain after the Romans left.  They were very powerful and a local pond, Ghost Hole Pond, has a sinister reputation.  There were several recorded cases of violent deaths associated with it and the Jutes were known for their human sacrifices.  These included the ‘ritual drowning of ….in ponds and meres.’  This seemingly quiet and peaceful part of Kent obviously hides a much more savage and brutal past. St Mary’s is another example of the Christianisation of pagan sites by building a church on top of one. An interesting brush with ancient history.

So now I have seen medieval examples of burial markers – can I find one that is even earlier? There are reputed to be some in the churchyard of St Peter and St Paul in Tonbridge, Kent but they were unsure of where they were. But I’m keeping a look out!

©Text and photos Carole Tyrrell unless otherwise stated

Further reading

A brief guide to the church of St Mary the VirgIn, Selling, Kent by Alan Neame

Jutes – Wikipedia

Selling, Kent – Wikipedia

A Brief Guide to the church of St Mary The Virgin, Selling Kent, Alan Neame, 1998 published by The Selling Parochial Church Council

You never know what little gems you might find in a country churchyard and I discovered one while exploring in Staplehurst in 2019.  All Saints church has a commanding hilltop position and looks down on the pretty half-timbered houses of the village.  Since 1100 it has stood on this site and has several ancient features.  These include the remnants of an anchorite’s cell.  This was a medieval form of penance in which the anchorite would live in a very small cell, if the size of the remaining floor of the cell is to be believed, and lived on offerings that parishioners and others would pass through a window set into the church and the cell.  The offering window is still there.  All I could think of was how cold it must have been in winter and how did they deal with their waste products.  They were effectively hermits and were declared as being dead to the world.  It was the Reformation brought the anchorite life to a close.  There is also a wooden door to the side of All Saints that has been definitively dated to 1050 and features scenes from Norse legends.  I could find no explanation for pagan elements being incorporated in a consecrated building and so it was very intriguing. Why here?

The churchyard was far larger than I expected and led to a more modern section at the back of the church.  But as I explored the older part of the churchyard I turned around and came face to face with this unusual symbol on a white headstone.   

It’s dedicated to Alice Stone, wife of James Stone of Sheerness.  There is no date of birth recorded but she died on 5 February 1787 aged 27.  Alice may have died in childbirth which was a frequent cause of death for women in past eras or maybe she was a victim of an epidemic. We’ll never know.  However, there is some barely legible lettering above the inscription which I have been unable to sufficiently enhance in order to read it so this may well warrant a second visit.

The scene at the top of the tombstone is almost like a miniature Doom painting.  My interpretation of it is that it’s Judgement Day and the deceased has awoken from their eternal slumber.  They appear to be in a burial chamber and lying on a ledge or on a shelf within a vault.  They have partly cast off their burial clothes and appear to be slightly decayed.  Ribs are visible and the head appears skull-like.

But where are they destined to go next?  What will be their fate? 

There’s only the choice of two final destinations for them – Heaven or Hell which are depicted on either side of the figure.

On the right hand side of the carving as you face it, is a magnificently winged demon, or The Devil himself, standing over a grinning skeleton whose crown has fallen from his head.   The crown is a very significant symbol in that it can indicate the passage from the earthly life into the divine and I have written it about in a previous Symbol of the Month.  The demonic figure appears to be holding what looks like a besom or maybe it is a three pronged fork or even a large arrow.  Although there are no flames, here the Devil is triumphant in his domain.

On the left-hand side, an angel appears to be floating within clouds while blowing a large trumpet in the direction of the newly awoken deceased.   Underneath the angel is a brick house with an entrance or a small narrow gateway (I have to say the entrance does resemble a fireplace).   I interpret this as being a depiction of God’s House and there are numerous references to it within the Bible and also in Genesis 28: 16-17:

‘When Jacob awoke from his sleep, he thought,

“Surely the Lord is in this place, and I was not aware of it.”

 He was afraid and said, “How awesome is this place! This is none other than the house of God; this is the gate of heaven.”

It was difficult to find a specific Biblical verse that mentioned the Devil and Hell but I did find a reference in Matthew 10:28 :

‘And fear not them which kill the body,

But are not able to kill the soul:

But rather fear him which is able to destroy both soul and body in hell.’

(King James Version)

I am not a particularly religious person but the parishioners of All Saints at the time would have recognised the quotations.

The scene would have been a prompt to the passing viewer or mourner to live their lives in a righteous manner or face the alternative for eternity.   It’s very dramatic and, as Alice died at an early age, this reminder would have very pertinent at a time when the average life expectancy was far lower. 

So far I have not been able to find out more about Alice or James but for now she rests within part of the quintessential English country churchyard.  She’s amongst ancient stones, some protected or obscured by mosses and lichens, and the bright wildflowers of late Spring.    However, I would like to know more about her and what may have inspired the little scene on her headstone.

R I P Alice Stone.

Since I wrote this post I have discovered other versions of ‘The Choice’ in various North Kent churchyards.   There is a weathered one in the churchyard of St Nicholas at Strood and no less than 5 versions, all by different stone masons, in St Mary the Virgin’s graveyard in Newington Kent.

One of the five versions of the ‘The Choice’ seen in the churchyard of St Mary the Virgin, Newington, Kent. ©Carole Tyrrell.

Another version from St Mary the Virgin’s churchyard in Newington, Kent. ©Carole Tyrrell

©Text and images Carole Tyrrell unless otherwise stated

Click to access 009-11.pdf

Click to access 009-11.pdf

https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew+10%3A28&version=KJV

Anchorite – Wikipedia

This is an initiative run by the God’s Own Acre organisation whose aim is to encourage ‘all who help to look after churchyards, chapel yards and cemeteries to celebrate these fantastic places in the lovely month of June – in any way they choose.’ I visited a little churchyard last week that was maintained by God’s Own Acre in that there was no mowing to encourage wildlife and biodiversity. As a result, it was alive with moths, butterflies, moon daisies and dragonflies. So here is a small gallery of my favourite finds in churchyards.

In 2019 I was dared to visit the allegedly most haunted village in Britain – Pluckley in Kent. It was full of disappointed ghost hunters but in the churchyard of St Nicholas I found a new symbol – Old Father Time which I have found in other Kent churchyards such as St John the Baptist in Meopham and the former All Saints in Chatham. I was just hoping that the headstone didn’t fall on me and I would join the other permanent residents.

This is now under ivy which may preserve it. I have found it in other Kent churchyards such as at Strood.

It’s dedicated to a woman, Catherine Bromley who was married to Will and died aged 33. If you would like to know more about her, the carving featured as a Symbol of the Month.

This one also featured as a Symbol of the Month as it was such a surprise to turn around in a pretty country churchyard and suddenly there it was. A carving that I had never seen before. Sadly, I could find out nothing about Alice Stone. I called it ‘The Choice’ and recently found it in the churchyard of St Mary the Virgin at Newington, Kent in five different versions!

Although headless, I thought that this was similar to a lady on a headstone at All Saints, Frindsbury and they became Symbols of the Month. I thought that they might be representations of the Greek Goddess Hebe which set me thinking about pagan symbols in churchyards and, as a result, I gave an online presentation on it to a myths group. photo ©Carole Tyrrell

This is the oldest tombstone that I have seen so far in the porch of St Nicholas, Sturry, Kent Photo ©Carole Tyrrell

However, this smiley little imp looks down on all those using the outdoor loo at St James’s church in Cooling, Kent – does he know something we don’t? Photo ©Carole Tyrrell

Text and photos ©Carole Tyrrell unless otherwise stated.

This is organised by the National Federation of Cemetery Friends and is intended to encourage cemeteries to put on events. In its honour, I thought that I would share some of my favourite monuments and memorials from cemeteries that I have visited as a gallery of images.

This is one of the fearsome snakes on the catacomb doors at Brompton cemetery, London. They are modern versions of memento mori.©Carole Tyrrell

This angel is one of four on the Holland monument in London’s Kensal Green cemetery. ©Carole Tyrrell

The sleeping angel on the monument to Mary Nichols, Highgate Cemetery, London ©Carole Tyrrell

and finally, another from Kensal Green cemetery on the Foster headstone.

Photos and text ©Carole Tyrrell unless otherwise stated.